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 jjjohnson |
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Posts: 1958 07/02/09 8:02 PM |
I am filling out my info on eharmony right now. it's hard; I'm trying to do it quickly and not over-think it.
I searched on the subject so I know some of you have done this but not a lot, I guess. any advice?   
Jackie says, I love Sammie, Fritz & Bunny and Blossom
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Posts: 2822 07/02/09 8:27 PM |
I met my husband online, so my experience was pretty positive.
As for advice, I just tried to be safety-conscious. If I decided to meet a guy, I met him at a public place...restaurant or whatever. I did not have him come to my home. I parked sort of far away from the door so that he couldn't link me to my car and license plate. I never gave my last name until I had dated someone several times. I told friends where I was going and what time I planned to be home and as much info as I knew about the guy. I only ever gave my cell phone number, not my home phone. That's all I can think of right now. Here's what my husband says: Definitely show a picture and be honest. Email a little bit with the person before you meet them and when you meet, go somewhere that gives you lost of conversation topics. We met for the first time at a Borders bookstore...lots of conversation topics there and a coffee shop. There you go! The guy's perspective, too.  Most of all...have fun!
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Posts: 3902 07/02/09 9:05 PM |
My biggest tip? Ask questions regardless of what they have in their profile.
I met up with one guy once, sounded great - no drugs, etc. Only to find out that he smoked pot CONSTANTLY. Didn't consider that 'doing drugs', but I do... Be clear, be concise, hide nothing - but don't expect that everyone else does the same... One of the things I liked about online dating was it seemed 'easier' to ask blunt questions that otherwise I kind of feel awkward just blurting out (since I'm rather the soft-spoken type).
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Posts: 2589 07/02/09 10:34 PM |
Met Mr. Deitris through a guy I met from a personal ad. What we did before online dating. Keep those security measures in mind, value all experiences good and
bad with a sense of humor. Good luck and happy hunting!
Good advice from Epi and Isis. 
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jjjohnson |
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Posts: 1958 07/03/09 6:59 AM |
thanks for the advice! all my matches are far away - I live in the middle of nowhere - so I might just end up with a penpal!
which photo do you think I should us? I think the first one is cuter but I am not usually that cute in real life so maybe it isn't fair to use that one. 
Jackie says, I love Sammie, Fritz & Bunny and Blossom |
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Posts: 20799 07/03/09 7:33 AM Professional Trainer/Owns Board |
Both are grand - impish and fun. I like the second one myself - warm, direct, and pretty. So... a good representation I would say. The dimples are a fine plus.
Sarah Wilson
Your dog can change but you have to change first. |
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Posts: 674 07/03/09 8:29 AM |
Actually, I like the second one better also. You have a nice smile.
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Posts: 7985 07/03/09 8:34 AM Moderator/Rescue |
I agree with Sarah and Jeni--I prefer the second picture.
You have a great smile, and it's more evident in that one.     
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Posts: 1958 07/03/09 9:27 AM |
Jackie says, I love Sammie, Fritz & Bunny and Blossom |
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Posts: 3676 07/03/09 11:08 AM |
Agree with above, love the 2nd shot....
I met DH online too. My advice? FWIW, YMMV, take what you like, leave the rest: 1. Meet in person (safely) as soon as possible if you think you have Real Life chemisty. That may be harder for you if you live far away. 2. Be clear & honest if there _isn't_ chemistry--online or in Real Life--and say, "I don't think we have the match I'm looking for," or something to that effect that is truth for you. 3. If you DO have crazy wild good chemistry, DATE. Go SLOW. Have fun. Enjoy getting to know each other. Dating is so wonderful, no need to rush through it, imo. (This was my happy situation--we lived only a mile apart but saw each other only 2x a week for 9 months.)
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Posts: 2251 07/03/09 11:18 AM |
I agree, the second shot is great. Good luck!
 
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Posts: 329 07/03/09 11:20 AM |
Wooohooo! I know so many people who have had tremendous success with online dating! I like the second pic too. AND, I've always thought your avatar pic
is adorable lol. I think you look great in outside mode.
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Posts: 1904 07/03/09 2:55 PM |
Another vote for the second picture. It shows how beautiful you are.
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Posts: 3357 07/03/09 3:35 PM Senior Member
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I like the second shot too.
I found my husband thru a personal ad - way before online dating! I have to say I broke all the rules: I met him at his apartment and two weeks later he moved in. Yesterday we celebrated our 14th wedding anniversary! Good luck - you probably should follow everyone else's advice!
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Posts: 381 07/03/09 4:41 PM |
I met dh online and broke some of the safety rules too. We'd been chatting as friends for a year before we admitted we liked each other, when we agreed to
give it a shot i travelled the 2 hours by train and stayed with him at his house for the weekend. A heck of a risk when meeting for the 1st time in person but
for us it worked out good. We dated for 18 months, spending every weekend together and then he moved in with me. We got married 4 months ago, 4 years after we
became a couple.
Good luck, i hope you meet that special someone ~Sarah   
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Posts: 340 07/03/09 8:31 PM |
I like the second pic also. I met my spouse online, we lived in different parts of the city and not sure how we would have linked up otherwise. But do keep
safety in mind, you do have to wade through some creepies to find the good ones.
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Posts: 775 07/06/09 7:48 PM |
I vote for #2 as well...but I think you are cute in both pics. I am a long-time veteran of the online dating scene. I met my ex-fiancee online and we were
together 5 years. In the 4 years I've been single since, I've been online. I've done both eharmony and match. I found more quality with eharmony,
but have had a greater quantity of face to face meetings from match.
I've met some that are creepy. I've met some that looked nothing at all like their pictures. I've met some nice guys, too. My friend and I are both online and have a restaurant/bar that we frequent. We know all of the bartenders and waitstaff, so we meet our dates there. We figure we can get immediate assistance if we need it. I never let them pick me up at my house the first time...always meet out. Actually, my friend and I have even set up dates at the same time at the same place and acted as if we didn't know each other. She stayed at one end and I stayed at the other. It was kinda fun that way! Good luck in your search. i just re-upped with eharmony, so we need to send vibes to each other.
Murphy, Nella, Gert, and Nittany's Mom. Welcome to my zoo.
   
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Posts: 1958 07/06/09 8:07 PM |
distance is going to be a problem. there were maybe two matches within an hour of me, most are 3 to 4 hours. that's what I get for living in the NE
panhandle.
some incredibly huge percentage of my matches are into motorcycles. what's with that? I have nothing against this but it surprises me. I am also on plentyoffish.com which is free, so check it out. anything goes but somes that's good. let me know how it's going for you on eharmony. I've sent out dozens of those guilded communication questions and most haven't answered.
Jackie says, I love Sammie, Fritz & Bunny and Blossom |
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Posts: 2822 07/07/09 7:38 AM |
I used Yahoo personals, so that might be another option to try if you aren't getting a lot of matches on eHarmony. I have heard from people that you tend
to get fewer people on eHarmony than on other sites Also, I haven't heard of plentyoffish.com, so it may be that some guys haven't either and, thus,
you may meet fewer people on there. You might check out Match.com and Yahoo personals, too, since they're kind of the "big names" in the biz.
You might not be hearing back from people if you're far away from them. I know I used to ignore anyone who contacted me who was farther away than I was interested in. Just a thought. |
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Posts: 657 07/08/09 8:38 AM |
I met MY husband online, too! Wow, there are a lot of us!
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Posts: 5050 07/08/09 1:57 PM Professional Trainer/Moderator |
Agree with the safety and picture stuff
I just started reading the Steve Hardy book, just for fun~ chock full of tips on dating and what to ask and what kind of answers to expect as well as what to look out for. Hilarious to boot, so maybe take a gander. |
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