I agree with Mary Ann- it was obviously giving him joy to push your buttons and then "prove his point" when you reacted. Jerk-face.
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Other people's dogs on your property - am I too anal?
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Posts: 215 07/10/08 12:41 PM |
EttaMae- jerk-face
 that cheers me up!
packopeebs - right now, it's hard to do it ourselves, because my husband travels for business regularly, and it would be hard to do it alone if he were away. Also, the sad fact, and main sticking point, is that my husband and I are some of the least mechanically inclined people on the planet. Equipment breaks, usually just when you need it most, and then what? I'm trying to get a little more handy over time though. I should really get outside and do something productive instead of being inside reading this board, but... he and his crew are out there. Yep, just me and creepy-guy alone on the farm for a few days while DH is away. This should be really, really comfortable. He just drove up in his truck and let his dog out for a good stretch and bathroom break (loose, of course), before putting her in the truck. I may need a glass of wine tonight. Meanwhile, as Sarah said, Onward. |
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Posts: 497 07/10/08 1:36 PM |
You know...avoiding this weasel (and my apologies to weasels everywhere) is NOT such a bad thing. It isn't being wimpy and letting him "win".
It's removing yourself from an uncomfortable, no-win situation.
((((( )))) May he get rashes in bad places from hay chaff 
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Posts: 2862 07/10/08 2:41 PM Senior Member
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I love that, Samantha!
Jumping on the hay rash vibe band wagon!!! {{{{FBD}}}} |
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Posts: 1321 07/10/08 3:11 PM |
Well, I'd love to find out if our SmartPuppy vibes can be used for "The Dark Side." Maybe after a few days of Hay Rash vibing, you casually go
out and ask him how he's feeling?
I don't like the fact that you are there alone with him on the property. If I lived close by, I'd come and visit and make sure he stayed away from you. 
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Posts: 4391 07/10/08 3:17 PM Trainer/Senior Member |
Where do you live? I know of a custom cutter group who comes up through Kansas and Oklahoma who are very nice people. I could get their name/number for you if
you live in that area...
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Posts: 1498 07/10/08 3:19 PM Senior Member
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I have a translator in my head for certain types of jerk- kind, thoughtful people tend to be much more diverse.
"You're so uptight" = "I'm irresponsible, and I'd like to experience no consequences for that. You're raining on my parade." Lifelong pattern? Want to bet there was some stored up frustration at a lot of other "uptight" people holding him responsible for his own actions that he couldn't yell at? With that passive-aggressive business with the dog, I'd be willing to bet money on it. I agree- avoiding him isn't being timid, it's staying the hell out of each other's way until you can figure out how to get rid of him for good. |
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Posts: 1576 07/10/08 3:50 PM |
Wow. He needs to go away forever.
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Posts: 491 07/10/08 4:06 PM |
Wow. I'm so sorry this is happening to you. I agree with everyone - at this point, after a few major confrontations in which jerk-face has shown that
he's tilting a little toward the crazy side, I would stay in the house, too. Get through the next few days and then start making some phone calls to find a
replacement. You might not find the right person right away, but then you might. If this guy's been doing it for you and the previous people for 20 years,
you might find that there are other people willing to do it but figured they didn't even need to bother asking or talking about it because he's had an
arrangement for so long. And - if you start the process, you'll feel like you're doing something productive to change the situation. Even if you
can't get it changed right away, at least you'll know you're making progress.
Tracy
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Posts: 215 07/10/08 7:13 PM |
This board is so great, it's really helped me maintain some sanity today.
deitris - thanks! I do have friends coming by. I think they'll stop by everyday until DH is home. Chinook - I'm in Vermont. We do have someone we're checking out, heard about them through the people that are stopping by daily. I'm hoping they work out, but if not, we can buy hay next year. This situation is so bad, that I know with a little distance it will be almost funny, so I'm trying to have a little of that distance now. Also, I'm thinking, "What would the Dalai Lama do?" Seriously. If the Dalai Lama can negotiate about his country with China then I can negotiate with this guy about hay. I think I'm seeing a little flipped out farmer syndrome here. I just made that term up. A person stretched too thin, trying to do too many things and coordinate too many things at once on very thin margins, starts flipping out. Not that he's a nice guy to begin with, but I think the pressure he's under is making him extra unpleasant. I'm going to stay away from him unless I see something too awful to ignore - like wet hay getting stacked in the barn. I predict he will get hay rash sometime this season  .
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Posts: 1576 07/10/08 7:29 PM |
Some things can't be fixed immediately, but by next the time it's ready to do the haying again you will have found someone else. Kinda stuck right
now....I'd do like you and avoid him.
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Posts: 4838 07/11/08 10:27 AM Dog Sports Trainer/Moderator |
When you first posted, based on your description of events, I would have guessed this was a young person in need of straightening out. But when you told us he
was an older farmer the whole thing takes on new dimension.
What a difficult situation for you and your husband - hopefully you can start to get a bead now on who will do this work in the future. You sure don't need this stubborn old cuss mistreating you in your own home. I understand what you're saying about what his life may be like - but unless he were absolutely the only game in town forever and always, you deserve better than to be this worried by another human on your own property. Please let us know how it turns out. Patty |
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Posts: 894 07/11/08 10:33 AM |
Word of advice - I wouldn't call anyone until he is done for the year - the farming community is a small one and you could find that he just doesn't
show up for second cut.
Good luck! BTW - good progress, he put the dog back in the car - look at it as a little victory... |
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